Kapatid, hindi lang sa sarili ang problema at pakikibaka dito.
Kasama dyan ang nasa MISMONG PALIGID MO.
yes, MEDIA.
Itinuturo ng media ngayon ang sumusunod:
1. Instant relationship; text, chat, etc.
2. Adultery - pagpatol sa may asawa na and vice-versa
3. Sex without marriage / fornication / unwanted pregnancies / premarital sex
4. Same sex relationship
5. 'love-is-a-game-principle' (love game by lady gaga)
6. Rebellion against the family or the parents
7. Undignified treatment with each other’s body such as dirty sex
8. Multiple-relationships (3 by Britney Spears)
9. Divorce / Annulment / Legal Separation
10. Self-seeking love / Selfishness
At marami pang iba. Hindi naman yan ang tunay na meaning ng love e.
isa pa,
SEX is not equal to LOVE.
Last week, sa OJT, may nagpa-counsel (Guidance Office akow na-assigned e). Yung bata, ang problema nya ay lovelife nya...
Akala raw nya pag nakikipag-sex na, e sign na mature na sya sa relationships...
haay, Lord, naaawa akow sa mga kabataan na ganyan ang paniniwala. Lord, salamat sa sword na ipinagkakaloob Mo na sa mga nagbabasa nito ngayon para sugpuin ang panlilinlang ni Taning sa mga minamahal naming kabataan. :) Love you na talaga, Daddy God. ♥
Meron pang nag tuturo ng pagka-inlove ng tao sa halimaw! Tama ba namang mainlove tao sa bampira? At umibig sa taong nagiging aso sa hating gabi? Walangjo naman o.
Di ko sinasabing wag magbasa ng Twilight Saga Books o manood ng movies nito, ako rin kase nagbabasa rin naman for entertainment reasons / purposes, ang sinasabi ko lang, wag mong dalhin sa reality, neng at wag maniwala. Ask God for guidance and protection against these materials.
Tsk. Dami tuloy naliligaw ng landas. Tanging guide for true and righteous love ay si God. Read the Bible, man’s manual yun e. tsk. Daming di alam to a, blessed ka’t nabasa / binasa / pinabasa / napansin mo ‘to. saka mag pray na gabayan ka Nya sa pagtahak mo sa landas ng pag-ibig. (wow naman.)
“Wrong information’s always shown by the media…”, sabi pa nga ni Apl de Ap ng Black Eyed Peas, diba?
Ayan na.
Nagtatanong ka ngayon kung
ANO NGA BA ANG LOVE?
maliban sa sinabi ng LORD sa 1 Cor. 13:4-8, ang LOVE ay:
✔
ISANG DESISYON.- natatawa naman ako dun sa term na "Fall In Love", gawin ba daw parang isang balon ng tubig ang LOVE na pwede kang ma-fall in to? hala. baka Sadako maging labas mo nyan? XD
Walang sariling isip ang LOVE. Don't think that para itong isang gravity o kidlat na pag tumama sayo e wala ka nang magagawa kundi sumunod. (parang alam ko tong kantang to XD)
To love is to decide.
Ibig sabihin, kapag ginusto mo, desisyon mo yan. ikaw ang pumili nyan.
kaya, syempre, DECIDE to love if sabi na ni God, "Go".
✔ ISANG PAGSUNOD SA UTOS NG LORD.
- Sabi ni Daddy God, "Love your neighbor, as you love your self." Kaya, do so.
and part of obeying Him is obeying when He said, "Do not be equally yoked with unbelievers." :)
✔ ISANG COMMITMENT.
-after all the sweetness, all the beauty of youth, and the feelings, ang commitment ang matitira. Now, kung napag desisyunan mo nang mag-commit sa isang tao, it should mean 'til death do you part. Kuha mo? :)
LOVE IS COMMITMENT.
Now, you might ask, paano ba ang tamang love?
ITO ANG HELP:
1. from friendship...
a. Courtship / ligawan stage – means getting to know each other stage, lalong wala muna dapat physical attachment na unnecessary, nagliligawan pa nga lang e. Dito rin malalaman kung compatible ang dalawa o sila ba talaga ang nasa plano ni God.
b. Dating stage – meaning, nasa second level na kayo ng courtship, pero ligawan padin yun! No unnecessary physical attachments paren. Di tuald ng mga artista o mga pinapakitang example sa media na “exclusively dating” lang, e nag ki-kiss at hug na!
c. Kapag may nagsabi sayo nang, “Ikaw, ang sinabi ng Lord na para sakin, tayo para sa isa’t-isa…” di totoo yun kasi, kung sinabi talaga ng Lord yun, bakit sayo hindi sinabi? Simple Logic. Kung kayo talaga, dapat pareho kayong sinabihan ni Lord! XD Di tayo ang gagawa ng paraan para maging tayo ng mga taong gusto natin, kasi pag nangyari yun, ‘di rin magiging masaya at di magtatagal, hindi talaga! Dapat si God magtalaga.
d. Di rin acceptable ang pag fe-first move ng mga babae sa lalake. Sa Bible parin tayo ba base, sino bang unang nilikha? Diba si Adan? At si Eba? BINIGAY SIYA NI LORD KAY ADAN. Eto pa, diba pinatulog ni Lord si Adan at hinugot mula sa kanyang tadyang si Eba, ang tanong, ginising ba ni Eba si Adan? XD natatawa ka ngayon, Eba?
Kaya, girls, WAG GISINGIN SI ADAN! Kung talagang gusto mo ang guy, PRAY! AND WAIT! tapos boys, MAGSITULOG KAYO! May nilaan si Lord para sayo, kung di mo seseryosohin, wag mong umpisahan, di laro ang love! MAGHINTAY RIN! IBIBIGAY NI LORD SAYO ANG BABAENG DAPAT SAYO. :) Hanapin ang kalooban NYA. Okay?
2. Kung in a relationship naman,
a. Boyfriend-Girlfriend Stage – kayo na nga, pero di pa kayo mag-asawa! little physical contacts are un avoidable kaya wag pupupunta sa madidilim, sulok, at intimate places na kung saan mati-trigger ang physical attractions… Wag rin naman Public Display of Affections! WAG na manunuod ng porn. Respect on the body means respect on the temple of the Holy Spirit. Ang Holy Spirit kasi nananahan sa katawan ng tao kaya respect it.
Though you might have already lost your virginity (i'm pertaining to both girls and boys), bumangon ka ulit sa pagkakalugmok, kapatid. :) God forgives. Forgive your self too. at syempre, remain pure by heart. blemish-free as you must. :)
ALWAYS LET YOUR PARENTS, AND SPIRITUAL GUIDES KNOW ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
WE NEED GUIDANCE.
A relationship that is hidden is not worth hiding at all...
b. Lagi ring tandaang ang pagiging commited ay nangangahulugan ng pag-aalaga sa isa’t isa. Ibinigay sya sayo para alagaan mo while hindi pa na mi-meet ng taong yan ang magiging husband or wife nya. (Kaya wag kang kumuha ng aalagaan mo kung di mo pa nga kayang alagaan ang sarili mo. Simple Logic ulit). Wala dapat intimacy between you and your ka-relasyon dahil hindi mo masisigurong sya nga ang future mo at ikaw sa kanya. Gets?
Help each other to remain pure, holy, and acceptable sa paningin ni God pag dumating na ang panahong haharap na sya o ikaw sa dambana.
E kung kayo talaga til the end e mas maganda. atleast na-reserve nyo isa’t isa para sa future, better days, at rightful times, for God’s sake and your selves too.
c. Pero na sayo parin. Dalawa lang naman pag pipilian mo e. God’s Way o yung World’s Way? Tandaan mo, si Satanas ang god of this world. The choice is ours.
“Life is a series of Choices, not a series of Chances.” Once a choice was made, you should know the consequences. Bihira nabibigyan ng Chances…
What do i mean with item c?
eto:
GOD's way: MAKIPAGRELASYON LAMANG KUNG MAY PLANO NANG PAKASALAN ANG TAONG IYON.
result?
-no heartaches
-total obedience to GOD
-successful married life in the future
WORLD's way: GORA LANG NANG GORA SA PAKIKIPAGRELASYON, BASTA MA-FEEL MONG LIKE MO SYA, AT LIKE KA NYA, parang fb, KAYO NA!
result?
-more heartaches
-disobedience to GOD
-failure on married life in the future
(ehem, english to)
Why do we choose to be attached to a person when we knew he’ll probably leave too, someday? We actually give a part of our hearts and soul to them, cannot be retrieved. Maybe because we only think of what was important as of now and what we want for the moment, and forgetting, maybe setting aside, what will be it’s effect in the long run.
A kiss is as exciting as your first day at school or first time receiving a gift; and we treated it as a sport, when we don’t know that from that simple act, we get ATTACHED emotionally to a person.
We hurry down at romance when we aren’t even sure of our commitment. And then cries “I can’t be without him anymore.”, after you fell apart. With that, you lose. Then, Taning will come laughing his evil laugh at you.
Now, would you like that? I hope your answer is, "No."
It's becoming a CIRCLE.
it’s a CYCLE that leads you running and running (and running) without even getting anywhere.
You connect.
You attach.
You broke up.
You connect.
You attach.
You broke up.
A CYCLE.
Whether it’s with the same person or the other, it’s still a CIRCLE; and it only hurts us much…
THE best way to be is (no, not to play safe) but to be attached to a person JUST when you know you were really ready for COMMITMENT.
a. BUILD FRIENDSHIPS along the way while getting busy with things you should be DOING first in your life.
b. STOP seeing the opposite sex ONLY as potential boyfriend / girlfriend.
c. WAIT for ROMANCE until both of you are really planning for MARRIAGE (commitment).
d. MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SINGLENESS.
e. PRAY.
YOU SHOULD PURSUE COMMITMENT ONLY, AGAIN, ONLY, IF THE PURPOSE IS MARRYING THAT PERSON.
tapos biglang dumugo ilong mo dun sa item d, o. XD
d. MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR SINGLENESS.
anu daw? haha
O RELAX.
eto daw.
ang sabi nyan, enjoy-in ang pagiging single.
Get busy.
Involve at church, study hard, earn your own money, be righteously free.
Spell E-N-J-O-Y. ;)
Konti lang ang panahon ng pagiging single.
at masaya yung wala kang ibang problema kundi ang sarili mo lang. haha
SPA.
Buying own clothes and things you want.
Earn money for yourself.
Parlor dito, parlor doon.
Doing what you and God wants.
Following your dreams. :)
Mantakin mo, ang single-life ranges approximately from 18 to 24 years old lang. LANG. LANG? LANG! LANG?! oo. ang iksi kung ikukumpara mo sa 24 onwards na buhay may asawa! aba. mag-isip isip ka, kapatid. sayang yung oras. gamitin sa tama. ;)
Huwag mong hayaang maubos lang ang panahon mo finding for Mr. / Ms. Right, bakit di kaya unahin mong maging si Mr. / Ms. Right? :)
Fix yourself.
And then God will see if ready ka na.
If Mr. and Ms. Right ka na.
Tapos Sya na bahala.
Oha? Bongga!
Obedience’s reward is BLESSING, kapatid. :)
Thanks to:
* Joshua Harris for his:
-I Kissed Dating Goodbye for some ideas
* my old compositions na na-copy-paste ko:
-True Love Waits Seminar
ayun. that was it.
and for now yan na muna.
May "Love and Courtship" at "Marriage Encounter" pa. haha
pero saka na yun pag sinabi na ni Daddy God. :)
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